You have a full house…
…but everyone has their own lives. This is fine, especially with the current high cost of living. When an adult child’s social life suddenly grows and keeps them busy much of the time, it’s a noticeable difference in the house. You don’t feel as needed anymore, except when they have nothing to do and you head off to another part of the house to do something or have a bit of quiet time but feel guilty when they call you out on it. Is that a double standard?
They’re busy. They have places to go, things to do, and people to see. But please be there when they’re not busy. Please don’t have your own places to go, things to do, or people to see. Do you understand this notion?
You’re already past the half-century mark and have been predominantly present as a parent for over half your life. You’ve put things on hold to be there for your kids. You don’t have much of a life outside the home and your job (if you have one).
You know what?
It’s time to take your life back and do things for yourself. Go places – places that are peaceful and relaxing; places that are busy and exciting; places that you could go your whole life without seeing but would be fun to see. Do things – things that are new to you; things that aren’t new to you but you haven’t done in a long time; things that get your body and mind moving. Take up a hobby, and stick with it … because you can.
Once your kids are adults, whether they still live in your house or not, you don’t need to be a full-time, hands-on parent anymore. It’s okay to leave the house without them.