We were halfway there but then went backward.
Two of our four children moved out of the house. One got married, and the other moved back in because he no longer had roommates to share rent with. This was nearly three years ago. The original plan I remember hearing was that he wanted to pay off his car. That was paid in full in February. Then he mentioned wanting to pay down some credit card debt. It’s seven months later with no sign of even wanting to move out.
Part of me doesn’t want to see him struggle because I’m his mom, but I also want to make the room he’s inhabiting my office. I’m tired of working in the basement. When I see him bring fast food into the house almost every day and buy upgrades and accessories for his computer, it’s hard to continue to show empathy.
If it was just about wanting more space (and fewer cars outside), it wouldn’t be as big of a deal. I work full time from home, and I want a nice office space to work in. Not a bedroom. Not a basement. Just an office.
What’s wrong with the room in the basement?
There was nothing wrong for a long time until I realized how much time I spent down there. Not only was I working 40 hours per week down there, but I would also spend time on my own computer surfing the web, blogging, and editing photos. That extra time is no longer an issue because I invested in a Microsoft Surface Book so I can do all of those things anywhere.
That purchase didn’t happen until after we took in a pretty permanent house guest. From what I understand, he wants to go to college here, but he isn’t welcome to live with his dad and stepmom in their new house. So he sleeps on a futon in my office. When I start working in the mornings, he gets up and moves to a couch if he doesn’t have to get ready to go yet. This shared scenario isn’t ideal, but it is first and foremost my office – where I earn money.
How do I overcome the overcrowded feeling?
I don’t. I can work at the actual office downtown, but that would cost more money (gas and light rail) and have me out of the house longer (40-50 minutes each way). I’m not going to do that. I work from home. I like working from home. Unless my company makes it mandatory that I work in the office, I will continue working from home as I have done for the last nearly 11 years.
Does anyone else out there have similar situations?
I feel like a support group probably exists somewhere!