Why do adults say things that can hurt kids’ feelings?

I read something on a social media feed that struck me as unnecessary to say to a teenager. I know I’m super sensitive to things like this, and maybe this particular teen truly thought it was humorous, but the comment gave me pause.

Things adults say that can hurt children's feelings.

I almost replied, but I didn’t feel like getting into another debate with this person, which happens almost every time I post an opposing opinion or otherwise speak my mind.

As a teenager, if I learned that my parent or other respected adult in my life was faking enthusiasm when talking with me when I was little, it would hurt my feelings on some level. You don’t have to be enthused about the particular subject matter, but you should absolutely feel joy and even excitement over the fact that your child is so interested in that subject matter. Revel in their excitement.

Perhaps the author of the above statement simply meant that they were faking enthusiasm for trains and kids’ shows. Whatever the case, certain parental “trade secrets” should never be revealed. 😉

Words by Zachner


Sheila K

I don't believe humans truly have a purpose. Our goal is to survive until we expire. Period. Joy is pleasurable and worrying is not. Balance in life is crucial; but if the scales must tip, may they tip on the side of joy. I’m just another human trying to survive. I blog because I can and because I enjoy it, not because it serves any purpose.

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