“There aren’t enough hours in the day!”
How often do you hear or say that? It’s kind of nuts because there are enough hours in the day. We just try to cram too much into our days. Why? To keep up with the Joneses? Why do we care what the Joneses are doing? Why do we need to compete? Do you feel less worthy if you aren’t as active in the community … if you don’t have as many hobbies … if you don’t have as many commitments … if your house/yard isn’t as “perfect”? Get over it! If you don’t have enough time to sit and watch one program on TV or read for at least 30 minutes each day, you’re doing way too much and are risking your mental and physical health.
“There’s just too much to do!”
Well, how did it get that way? Again, trying to cram too much into our days contributes to this dilemma. We get in such a hurry that we just set things down wherever so we can get to that next thing faster. Then a pile is formed, and another, and another. The mere sight of these piles becomes overwhelming, and we don’t want to take the time to tackle them. If we had just taken that extra two minutes to put the item where it belongs in the first place, there would be no pile! What a concept – right? But it’s already too late, and there are such massive piles that we avoid by putting on blinders.
Do you have “family meetings”? They sound so formal and business-like. The last time we gathered our family together in one room for a discussion was when we spilled some heavy news about a job loss and a genetic disorder. Once upon a time, people didn’t need to schedule “family meetings” because they had “family dinners”! That’s where everyone got together at the same time and talked. With larger families, varying schedules, and cramming too much into our days, family dinners just don’t happen that often anymore, though.
How did we get here? How do we fix it? How do we keep it fixed?
I know how we got here. Laziness? A little. The desire to do that which brings joy and pleasure over that which is dreaded and frustrating is a better answer. Even in a house full of ADD, routines can be made to avoid getting into this mess. It’s easy to plan a routine, but it’s very hard to make it a habit. So I really don’t have an answer other than to just do it!
On that note, I will stomp off to switch the laundry and empty the dishwasher and ponder, for a moment, the idea of creating a schedule to delegate tasks among family members and then enforcing the schedule until the very idea quickly becomes overwhelming at the thought of looming over said family members to make sure the tasks get done (and done right). Exhausting. This is how I end up just doing things myself or letting them go. Piles.