Don’t Fear the Reaper | Major Life Change

“All our times have come. Here, but now they’re gone. Seasons don’t fear the reaper, nor do the wind, the sun, or the rain. We can be like they are.” ~Blue Oyster Cult

Tell me how to be like they are. The reaper has taken one of our incomes – the larger one. This is the major life change I’ve been holding back on sharing. Please don’t ask for details because I still don’t fully understand them myself. The bottom line is that there was a mutual parting of ways between Greg and UPS, which includes pay for the remainder of October and all of November along with paid career counseling and placement services through Lee Hecht Harrison. How’s that for a birthday present? Yes, this came to fruition on his birthday!

While this type of loss can’t really be compared to the death of a loved one, there are certain similarities. Grief has many emotions. I’m scared, I’m sad, I’m angry, and I’m bitter. It was confusing to me to learn that as he walked out of the building, he felt relief and happiness. Years of stress and unhappiness over long hours and working nights had ended. The routine of waking up late in the afternoon, rushing out the door, working all night, and getting home 12 or more hours later to eat, sleep, and do it all over again day after day and not seeing much of the family … all the school functions and performances missed … all the quality family time missed since our first kids were born 20 years ago … gone.

Likewise, a certain lifestyle the entire family has grown accustomed to is gone. It wasn’t a grand and carefree lifestyle by any stretch, but it did afford a bit of comfort. Learning how to adapt and understanding the full impact will be more difficult on some than others. What hurts the most is having to say no to far more things than before. Then there’s society’s natural tendency to look down on those in lower income tax brackets. Oh, it’s a fact. They’re looked down on, excluded, and pitied in many cases. Don’t do any of that! Prayer and support would be better received and more helpful.

One thing is certain, and that’s the fact that we have quite a journey ahead of us. We’ve been pushed out of a plane without parachutes and don’t know if we’re going to hit the ground and break into pieces or sprout wings and land somewhere in between. I’m pretty sure we won’t be soaring to new heights, though. We can only pray for a miracle where prospective employers consider 20+ years of management experience at a major shipping company over a puppy fresh out of college with a degree. It’s this “prejudice” that has me the most worried.

I wanted some fresh ideas for blogging, but this isn’t what I had in mind! I’m grateful that internet service is not an expense we’ll have to cut since it’s paid for by the company I work for. The blogging will go on!

So there it is out in the open. I’m normally one to embrace and welcome change, but this one has me singing a different tune.

Darcy Elliott

I don't believe humans truly have a purpose. Our goal is to survive until we expire. Period. Joy is pleasurable and worrying is not. Balance in life is crucial; but if the scales must tip, may they tip on the side of joy. I’m just another human trying to survive. I blog because I can and because I enjoy it, not because it serves any purpose.


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